Your child looks forward to their birthday all year long. Usually, the whole family gathers to celebrate and shower them with presents and lots of love. This year, however, things are different because of your divorce. Now, you’re trying to figure out how can you make the day special for your child under the circumstances.
There are several ways that this can be handled, depending on the type of relationship that you now have with your ex. Start by asking your child what they would like to do. With any luck, it will be something that you and your ex can handle together without arguing. If you and your ex-spouse can work together, you should be able to find a way to make the day memorable for your child.
Ways to celebrate your child’s birthday
Consider these ways to celebrate your child’s birthday:
- Continue the same tradition of a family party. Choose a neutral location, such as a pizza place or park, and celebrate. If everyone can manage to put their differences aside for a couple of hours, this might be your best bet.
- Host separate celebrations on separate days. Try to get your child excited about having two parties and plan to have fun! Gather your side of the family for a party, and let your ex do the same at his place.
- Split the day with your ex. Consider taking your child out to lunch with their closest friends, then let your ex pick her up for a dinner celebration. As long as the child doesn’t object to this option, they should have a memorable birthday.
The most important thing to remember is that this day is not about you and your ex. The last thing that should happen on a child’s birthday is a loud fight between their parents. If the two of you can’t agree on how to celebrate, refer to the custody agreement.