Talking to your kids about your divorce may be one of the most difficult conversations you will ever have. Seeing them experience different emotions can be challenging. But a few practical tips can help you.
Here are four of them:
Tell the truth, but be careful
You should tell your kids the truth, but this doesn’t mean overwhelming them with information, especially if they are younger. A statement like “We don’t get along anymore and have decided to go our separate ways” should work.
Tell them you love them
Informing your kids that you still love them seems simple, but it’s vital. Your kids know their lives will change due to the divorce. Thus, it’s crucial to reassure them that some things, including how you care about them, will remain the same.
Answer their questions
You should answer your children’s questions honestly. If you don’t have an answer for a matter, tell them you will provide more information when you have an answer.
If your kids don’t ask questions, encourage them to do so. You can ask, “Do you have any questions?” throughout the conversation. Giving them a platform to express their feelings allows you to learn their worries and, in turn, know the best ways to help them.
Avoid blame game
You should not blame your spouse for the divorce, even if their actions led to it. Plan what to say, and if possible, you and your spouse should be present during the conversation.
When your children see a united front, they can maintain a family sense. Accordingly, they may not be so anxious about the future. You should also inform your kids they are not to blame for the divorce, as they may think it’s their fault.
Going through a divorce with children can be challenging. With legal guidance, you should protect their interests and your parental rights.