It is natural for those planning a divorce to imagine all sorts of ways the end of a marriage may affect them psychologically. Even so, most Punta Gorda residents feel blindsided by the intensity of their emotions during divorce.
Unfortunately, you cannot always know how divorce will impact you psychologically. As such, we often recommend expecting a range of emotions when ending your Florida marriage. In other words, expect the unexpected.
What kinds of emotions do people typically experience?
Most people find themselves fluctuating between feelings of joy and despair throughout their divorce. One day, they may feel excited about the prospect of starting life anew. The next day, they might feel grief over losing someone they once loved, or perhaps still love.
Other unexpected emotions you might experience throughout your divorce include:
- Feeling shame or embarrassment
- Missing your soon-to-be-ex
- Wondering if the divorce is your fault
- Feeling sorry for your spouse or yourself
- Experiencing stress, depression and feeling isolated
- Missing the friendship of your ex
It might not seem like mere feelings can influence your divorce, but it is much more possible than you may believe. Your emotions can affect the way you handle yourself before a judge. For example, if you seem overly distraught, a court might think you need psychological help to continue parenting your kids.
We understand the deep emotions a divorce can bring to the surface. As such, we typically suggest learning how to cope with the psychological side effects of divorce. Some people can learn coping measures on their own while others seek counseling or therapy to rise above the way divorce makes them feel.
Involving yourself with the procedural requirements and learning more about family law can also help you move past your feelings and focus on the business side of ending an unhealthy marriage.